It has been a few days since I posted on Vintage Feminist due to the holidays and family trip we took this weekend and because of this it has felt as if I am forgetting to do something. Writing on here for the last two months has ALREADY became a habit, but one I love of course and happy to get back to it.
As I am sitting here next to my nephew and daughter as they fall asleep my dressers mirror is placed right on the opposite wall. So every day there’s usually 30 to 45 minutes of me staring at myself in the mirror. Sounds fun huh? Well you’re right… not in the slightest, but it had me thinking. In the many, vintage housewives books I have read there seems to ALWAYS be a chapter on looking good for your husband. As I look at myself I know instantly I am not one of those girls. I watch two kiddos all day and don’t find the need to wake up and put make up on and sit for an hour doing my hair. My husband never complains. Doesn’t even notice I don’t believe. I have a hard time imagining feeling pressured to get “presentable” for my husband everyday because he expected it. With that said, I CAN imagine doing it for myself. Sometimes as I am sitting in front of the mirror I think just wake up 10 minutes earlier and put make up on. Usually this makes me feel more awake and ready to start my day. Whether this is because I feel like I can jump in the car and run errands at any given moment because I am already ready to go or because it gives me a slight confidence boost. I am not really sure, but every woman goes through those moments of thinking… oh my gosh I can’t look in the mirror another second or I am going to gag… To think women used to make the effort solely to do this for their husbands is crazy. It just sounds exhausting to me. Make ups to expensive to use everyday to use for no reason.
So I wonder if it was truly EXPECTED of women to do this for their husbands or if it was something that caught on as a norm during those days. Did women have to look presentable for their loved ones?
Now-a-days, I say do it for YOURSELF and only YOURSELF. If you wish to do that every day which is perfectly great and I am jealous of those who have the energy and motivation to do so, but make sure you are doing it to make yourself happy… no one else. Not your husband (even though marriage is a partnership and you should compromise for your other half, but a true man will love you and doesn’t even see such things), not your friends and definitely not your enemies. Be happy being you!
Does your husband believe you should be presentable when he comes home? Men, do you think women should look a certain way for you to maintain happiness? Lastly, do you put on make up and dress up everyday? What’s your routine?
Would love to here your opinions!